'Marriage Is for White People'
By Joy Jones
Washingtonpost.com
Sunday, March 26, 2006; B01
I grew up in a time when two-parent families were still the norm, in both black and white America. Then, as an adult, I saw divorce become more commonplace, then almost a rite of passage. Today it would appear that many -- particularly in the black community -- have dispensed with marriage altogether.
But as a black woman, I have witnessed the outrage of girlfriends when the ex failed to show up for his weekend with the kids, and I've seen the disappointment of children who missed having a dad around. Having enjoyed a close relationship with my own father, I made a conscious decision that I wanted a husband, not a live-in boyfriend and not a "baby's daddy," when it came my time to mate and marry.
My time never came.
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As I scroll down to read, my eyes grew wider and wider not by surprise but truly by shock. I could not believe how such an article could echo my thoughts so accurately.
I am thirty something and I wish to have a family but I refuse to have just a baby father or simply be a single mother. I do not see a man as a provider alone but as the head of the house and a lifelong partner and friend.
Do I dare hope for that?
How do we turn things around?
what about love, or do we say "whatlove got to do with it? Any type of answer or comment
will be greatly appreciated.
P.S. I am the host of a radio show and I think this could make a great subject to reflect on.
Thanks
That is a very strong generalization about African men and women please let me know where do you get your facts from, and the comparison it has with the white race. Because most of what your saying sounds like Black men and women has made this choice. White people live the same way.
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